please help...

Dia adalah anak sulung dari 5 orang adik beradik. Mama bapa dia sudah bercerai... She is 13 years old now. But she has a very complicated problem. She is bright and talented. she in the good class, she doing good in her exam, she also good in singing, dancing and painting...

But she got a problem from around her... she has no friends, she was isolated by others students... girls talk bad behind her, the boys keep teasing her. And all these happen because SHE WAS RAPED BY HER OWN FATHER.

Her father has been 'dragged' to court, but kes ni tia pernah lah siap, tukar lawyer lah, judge pindah la, itula, inilah... dan ini berlarutan sudah 2 tahun...

then, lst friday, dia tia tahan sudah... semua kawan dia kasi pulau dia, teda urang mo jadi kawan dia... dia pun ambil jalan drastik, dia p telan 24 biji panadol dan 1 botol ubat batuk, she tried to kill herself, suicide attemp... but, Thanks God she was saves by somebody...

God still Love Her.. that for sure. so let offer her a prayer so that she can come back strong and she can appreciates more her life...

LOVE THE SINNER, HATE THE SIN...

kotoh......

"buat apa guna nama Dusun, bikin malu dan ketinggalan zaman. Ko mo ka nama ko si Giras atau c Gobuk. bikin malu ja, nasib bapa sia bagi sia nama Parantis (Francis)"...

Hmm, dialog di atas butul-butul berlaku. dan urang ni cakap sama sia lepas sia bagitau nama anak sia nanti sia mo taruh nama Kristian dan nama Dusun Klasik. Dia berabis lagi kasi katawa sia, dia cakap sia ketinggalan zaman... bila sia cakap yang sia mo anak sia akan guna bahasa Dusun sebagai Bahasa Utama, lagi kuat dia katawa...

untuk pengetahuan, dia ni berasal dari kg yang semua Dusun, elektrik baru sampai tahun 2006, jauh di pedalaman, dan bapa mama dia cakap dusun. bini dia urang yang dakat2 bandar sudahla. dan dia ni masih kuat moginum, cuma sekarang dia tiamo makan bosou, kinoring, bambangan, tutod... alasan 'kutur bah tu'.

sia bukan mo kutuk dia, tapi sia tau ramai urang di luar sana yang macam dia. mimang Dusun tulen, tapi malu mengaku Dusun, malu cakap dan malu mo bagi tau nama sebenar dia. saya ada kawan urang Sarawak, lahir di Kuala Lumpur, membesar dan bersekolah di semenanjung, tapi bila bercakap dengan urang serumpun sama dia, dia punya Kayan, lancar macam air. dan sia ada satu urang kawan. Dusun dari Kg yang di Ulu Kiulu, yang memang membesar cakap Dusun, baru 2 tahun di semenanjung, mo cakap Dusun pun malu sudah, kita cakap Dusun dia balas pakai malayu Semenanjung...

point sia yang sebenarnya ialah, kanapa kita malu mengaku Bahasa, Bangsa kita sendiri... Tuhan tidak cipta kita lahir di dalam macam-macam bangsa supaya kita buli cakap bangsa yang itu lagi up to date dari bangsa sia, jadi sia mo tukar bangsa la. kita patut bangga dengan asal usul kita. nama untuk urang Dusun bukan Gobuk, Kara atau giras sahaja... Tandangaron, Maradan, Kolindoi... semua ni nama klasik yang sedap didengar dan dalam maknanya... Huminodun, kudingking, Rumandawi... semua ni nama Dusun...

jadi, kita pikirlah, macamna supaya bangsa dan Bahasa kita ni lebih dihormati dan disegani... rajin-rajinlah cakap Dusun dan jangan malu mengkau yang kita ni Urang Dusun...

Tomposio Boros Tokou...

my worries...

First situation.
I was sitting at Pasar Besar KK that day, waiting for my lunch to be serve (ingat sia tia pandai makan di pasar ka?), when a scene attracts my attention. There was a lady with her 3 young kids (about 5 - 10 years old), sit at 1 of the table. After making order, she starts to 'clear' her table by displacing all the stuffs like kicap, cuka, lada, tisu, and even the jug to the other table. but the problem is, the other table is belong to the other stall. the owner of the other stall came and put all the things at the original place, which the one that this lady is sitting. suddenly this lady get angry "penuh sudah ni meja, ko simpan balik di sini?". the towkey replied "ini bukan saya punya, nanti ko simpan di sini, itu towkey mara saya pula. Dia cakap saya mo curi nanti"... The replies only make the lady angrier, with a louder voice "Stupid punya towkey, ini meja sudah penuh tapi masi lagi taruh di sini, kalo tidak bengam bagus jan buat gerai sebelah menyebelah lah.. stupid! Moron!"
again the lady put all the things to the next table, and again the towkey came and put back the things to its original place... then suddenly this lady yelled " hey stupid, meja saya sudah penuh la "... then only after the yelling, the other towkey came and helped this lady to put the things to the other unocccupant table... but the lady keep mumbling and i still can hear the word stupid and moron mentioned by this lady...

second situaton.
I was walking at centre point when i stumbled with this situation... a woman in front of me was holding her daughter hand but walking fast and seems that they are in a hurry. suddenly, the daughter slipped maybe because she cannot catch up with her mom's speed. without asking or anything, the mom lifted the daugter then PEKKK!!! she slapped the innocent daughter at the chhek. the daughter started to cry when PEKK!!! another slapped came.'jangan nangis kalo ko tia mo sia buang ko pi bawah' warned the mother...the daugther hold off her tears but she still sobbing.. i just stood there.. surprised by the woman's action..

Two situations on how parents behave in front of their children that I witnessed make me worry. sooner or later I will become parent myself. i found that cursing or calling someone stupid or moron or names in front of children will affect the children. they will learn what the saw, heard, experienced... especially from their parents or someone close to them.

i'm worry about myself becoming parent, many more things that i have to learn. I try to read many books about parenting but still, I dont even know if those 'petua' can be used at the real life. me, myself raised up by my parents by the rule of ' punishment first ask later'. well, apapun, i have to be brave... experimenting a new thing is a gamble, but follow what was already there is boring... betul ka? tiataula...